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The Big Shelter Mistake
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 Think Hard before desperately taking a pet to a Humane Society or shelter.

 

We all have times when life throws us a real sharp curve as it derails our lives and puts us in situations where difficult decisions are put before us.

Divorce, a change of living arrangements or something else you had no expectation of ever happening. Most often the pets have to be placed somewhere because you may have little time to advertise or search for a great home.

I had one experience I will never forget and hope all who read this article will also agree that legislation must be changed to protect not only pets but their owners as well. I am speaking about pets that are dear to their owners for years and either illness or forced into a smaller living quarters that will not allow more than one pet.

Whatever the cause, what I learned about the law of the Humane Society is terribly unfair and cruel. I am working on a law to prohibit shelters from making a permanent decision about our best friends.

Shadow was a beautiful shaded silver smoke Persian. I had been bringing loving little angels to only families that really could care for them and the grooming. I was not a backyard breeder or a kitten mill. My vet gave my name to anyone who wanted a healthy happy and socialized kitten with a health guarantee and personal private lessons on grooming, training or any other issue one of my special cosmic kitties.

 

I was featured on the front page of a magazine as my three  kitties were eating dinner on my kitchen table. My cat Yanni produced a kitten under a coffee table when the interviewer and photographer were there. This is why they called me the Cosmic Cat Lady.

 

I lived in a large modern house with lots of space for my two dogs and three cats. My marriage was falling apart and if that wasn't bad enough I had a special needs daughter who needed a lot of intervention. I had taken kittens to her school on occasions to do some pet therapy with her classmates. My life was about to change drastically and my mother was on her death bed.

 

I was totally beyond rational with all the stresses and fear for where I would be next month. Having a really difficult day, I realized I could not take everyone with me to my next residence. I tried so hard to place Shadow with friends or family and money was no issue. She was papered and shown, not to mention loved by all and purred pleasurably no matter who she was around.

 

Desperately, in a place in my mind that saw me as being destitute, prompted me to drive to the nearby Humane Society, hoping and knowing she was so beautiful it would be no problem finding her a great home.

 

I had never given up a pet to the shelter and it broke my heart. Six hours later after dropping her off, I heard her crying in my heart to come and get her She was in pain. I rushed back to reclaim her, willing to pay whatever fee would be deemed.

 
My heart dropped when they snobbishly told me I could not have her back. It had only been hours since I took her. I could not believe that I had no recourse of changing my mind and getting her back. They knew how well I took care of her and I knew the lady behind the counter had her eye on my Shadow.

I became obsessed with getting my Shadow back and proceeded to go there every day and they wouldn't even let me see her. Nothing I could say or do would enable me to get my sweet Shadow back home. I became irate and desperate, but nothing helped.

I really believe that the policy should be changed. Owners should have at least 48 hours to change their minds. My vet who was an honored doctor and contributor told me I wasn't the first person they did this too. and they were plenty angry.

 

I am interested in what others think. My Shadow law would force shelters to allow a short amount of time to get your head back on straight and realize you will find a way. I have no problem with a fine or some other form of restitution so I could get my dear pet back.

Pet shelters are for pets or any animal that has no home. My situation was not the case. It was based on a frantic moment in my daily events and I should have been able to get her back. She had a great home and they certainly could not promise that she would have a better one. I never got my Shadow back and I will never take an animal back there again. I would rather board my pets than to ever go back to a shelter, unless I am helping someone to adopt a pet.

I was devastated without being able to have her back and intended to do something about it. Imagine yourself in this position. What would you do? Do you think these places have the right to refuse you your own pet once you sign them in? People are not perfect and are entitled to change their minds when a loving pet was mistakenly taken there out of a desperate moment in time, all the unwanted pets they have to take care of, as they constantly ask for money. You would think they would be happy to reunite an owner with their beloved pet.

 

The Shadow Law would prevent them from keeping a pet if a person or family comes back within 48 to 72 hours realizing the terrible decision they made. The love is still there. Foster children can be returned to parents, but our pets our other children and we don't get to see ever again. This is heartbreaking.

 

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By josie @ Thursday, February 14, 2008 1:21 PM
My heart goes out to you. Theres no way you can find where she went or make a complaint to whomever governs these shelters.Could someone else have gone in for you pretending to want to adopt her?I agree the puropose is to find them a home, and you were offering that. Is it too late to do something about it?
Well if you think that lady had an eye on her I would follow her where she lives and kidnap the cat !!!!!!!!!
Sorry sometimes you have to fight fire with fire. What state are you in?

By way2manypets @ Thursday, February 21, 2008 9:19 AM
That sounds like a horrible situation for you and I can't even imagine how you felt. I do want everyone to realize that most "surrendered" pets at most shelters are almost immediately euthenized. They claim to be "no kill" shelters but only try to adopt out the pets that will make them money. My sister and I both foster and volunteer for 2 shelters who both immediately euthanize surrendered pets. I have seen whole litters of puppies put down with their mothers, and that is the saddest of all. I hope if anyone needs to rehome a pet that they try every outlet possible to do this on their own. The shelters are so over crowded already and too many good and loving animals are being put down for no reason except they can't find a home. And please don't breed or buy when you can adopt!

By daniemoe @ Thursday, February 28, 2008 10:34 AM
Sorry, but I would NEVER have done that in the first place. I would rather live on the streets or in my car before I give up one of my babies. I'd find a way.

By jenscats @ Thursday, February 28, 2008 7:35 PM
My heart goes out to you as well and i completely agree with you that the shelters are full enough, there is no reason they should deny you your own animal. I am in the process of opening up my own no kill animal shelter and i do mean no kill not just say it like others are known to and if someone came in wanting there family member back and the animal was well taken care of there is no way i would deny them that. It's better to have an animal in a home that loves it than stuck in a cage.

By RescueALab @ Saturday, March 01, 2008 8:35 PM
I feel horrible for what happened to you. I agree there should be 48 hour window in case you change your mind. The "shelters" either ASPCA, Humane Society, etc. have been able to fool us that they are the best alternative, and are able to get donations because if it. Almost none are NO KILL. While I do appreciate the work they do, people MUST get informed in advance when surrendering their pet. Every shelter I have been to will not let you change your mind or adopt your pet back. It is HARD to get it out of anyone that works at any shelter - but everyone needs to know to do the research! Only shelters that are 100% no kill should be used. They have very little money because they keep all animals they take in until they are adopted. When surrendering to a 100% no kill shelter always try to give them a monetary donation because they will be keeping the pet alive for an unlimited amount of time.

I rescued a 4 year old chained dog and found out he was "too old" and would be out down - this was after going to 6 differnt shelters. Every pet person should look up the 100% No Kill shlter in their area so you can spread the word and help others. The closest one to me is in Phoenix, Maryland called Defenders of Animal Rights. I have taken numerous dogs there by stopping their owners from going to Animal Control, SPCA, Humane Society, etc. It is a very long drive but is worth saving a life. By the way the 4 year old I rescued was adopted his first day!!

By zephaniahsmom @ Sunday, March 02, 2008 4:00 PM
I feel bad for your situation and do agree that there should be an allowance for someone to realize they have made a mistake and reclaim their pet, but don't be too hard on the Humane Society or other shelters. They are all overworked and underfunded and way outnumbered by uncaring pet owners/abusers. If people were more responsible in the first place, then euthanasia would not be the unfortunate result. The animals euthanized are TOO ABUSED, NEGLECTED OR ILL to be considered adoptable, especially given how many animals they are trying to find homes for. What shelters really need is more help, volunteers as well as financial assistance. WATCH ANIMAL PLANET'S ANIMAL HEROES and you'll get a better picture of what they have to deal with and what they need. If you're an animal lover you want to be careful about doing anything that will harm more animals by turning people off helping shelters. Overall, shelters do good work and the workers are good, loving people trying to help the animals. REMEMBER: NEVER MAKE ANY DECISION IN THE THROES OF EMOTION! I'm sure your Shadow is in a loving/caring home.

By Aprilana @ Wednesday, March 05, 2008 2:55 PM
I agree. You are right. If I can do anything, let me know. I would have torn that place a part. I would have gotten the law involved, whatever. I am not saying you didn't try but you are right. Hell, they let sex offenders back out on the streets cause of all these defense attorneys getting them second chances & some little smart a** is going to tell me no to my own cat. I would have been furious.As I know you were.

So you never got her back, do you know what happened to her? I am sorry to have to ask but I am worried now. Where is Shadow and what happened? How long ago was this? Oh my heart aches now. I wish I had not read it. Thanks.

By wepajem @ Saturday, March 08, 2008 11:58 AM
Imagine if your pet were your child. Would you drop her at social services because you were "having a bad day"?!?!?!?
Shame on you for being self-righteous.

By rashia13069 @ Monday, March 10, 2008 6:36 PM
I was faced with the same problem after all but two of my 13 cats were gone. I still hurt as I want nothing more to have my cats and my dog back in my life.

By Carol @ Tuesday, March 11, 2008 10:06 AM
North Shore Animal League is a no kill shelter unless the animal is to injuried to save. I send donations regularly to this shelter because I believe every animal has a right to a happy loving family. Please take the time to visit www.nsal.com and make a donation.

By StoneIsMySoulmate @ Friday, March 14, 2008 2:26 AM

Dear Friend,

It is the easiest thing in the world for one to be an 'armchair quarterback' and say what one would do in such a situation. The fact is, no one can possibly know what one would do in such a situation unless faced with having to make those choices oneself. One can only say what one BELIEVES one would do.

I have been close to your situation and believed I would have to surrender my beautiful, loving cats to the local pound. I was homeless and couch-surfing. My cats were living with a friend but the friend needed to get them out or risked losing her HUD assistance. I had pursued every single avenue I could and was unable to find a solution to my dilemma.

It was the middle of winter. I could not ask my cats, one of whom is 13 and both of whom had always been indoor cats, to live on the street with me in the middle of the worst Oregon winter in over 10 years. Believe me, I did consider that possibility; I have had both of my cats since they were kittens and the other cat is 7 years old. I would be unable to meet any of their needs, including feeding them.

I knew if I had to surrender my cats, they would not be adopted. One is too old and the other is 1/2 feral. I love them. I would do anything for them. Yet I knew I would not be able to save them if I could not find a home.

Fortunately for me and my little furry family, we got what we needed just in the nick of time. I now have them listed with HUD as my Assistance Animals; they provide me with emotional assistance and, as such, cannot be taken from me for any reason. Between HUD and their Assistance Animal status, I need never face such a situation ever again.

I am so sorry you lost your beloved pet. My heart goes out to you and your little friend. I do not judge you; I almost was you. Best wishes for your healing and the safety of your sweet, gentle friend.

Morgan

By simonandtommy @ Friday, March 14, 2008 8:26 AM
I am so sorry that you were not able to get your baby back. I WAS in your situation, thankfully I had a friend that was able to keep my cats until I could secure a place to live and pay the non refundable pet fee. Unfortunately my cats had to live on his screened in back porch until then. I agree there should be a law or something that would allow anyone in our situation to be able to get our babies back if our situations change or we change our minds. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help with this endeavor!
Dancie and me

By cesg @ Wednesday, March 26, 2008 11:24 AM
Shelters deal with the surrender of pets all the time. Unforunately they often become so jaded, hearing time and time again that someone can't keep their "beloved" pet because they are "allergic" or it doesn't match the furniture (yes, it has happened) Shelter workers often can not stand people - and for good reason.

You were facing a bad situation, and you chose to rehome your cat. To a shelter worker who knows nothing about you more than that, feels for the cat and probably doubts you couldn't do any more to keep it. If you were willing to let it go, they can't help but wonder what else you are willing to do. If you get the pet back, what is going to stop you from bringing it back when you actually get to the breaking point, or they are left to wonder if you will bring it back or leave it to suffer in your house.

Remember, they know nothing more about you than you were willing to let go of your pet. and they have seen some pretty horrible things.

Before you condem all shelters everywhere, spend some time in a few of them. The staff is over worked, underpaid and often quite burnt out, but they keep doing what they can for the animals because they can't give up. Granted there are some that don't - as there are always exceptions to the rules, but to see a carton of puppies, a pregnant cat, five dogs and a clutter of cats walk in the door when if you are lucky you adopted out one pet is heart breaking.

Not to mention the cost of having to care for EVERY animal for 48 -72 hours before being able to put it up for adoption... you'd be taxing already stretched budgets.

And as for doing business with a "no kill" shelter only, you are simply condeming the pets at the open admission shelters. No kill shelters are able to be no kill because they can turn away pets. "kill" shelters are contracted to take pets from certain areas and have no choice but to take in animals, no matter how many they already have, and there simply isn't enough cages, food, workers, and homes for them.

Until we get the overpopulation of pets under control, you are going to run into heart breaking situations in shelters. Hopefully we can take a moment and recognize the great work even the worst shelter does. It keeps the pets from dying on the streets..

By tylerandheidismom @ Thursday, March 27, 2008 12:19 PM
I am so sorry that this happened to you. I do not feel I can judge you. Do you even know if Shadow is still alive? Are there any legal avenues that you can take. I would be glad to help in anyway possible whether it be letters calls, or what ever the need may be. How are you doing now? Where are you? I may have missed it in the other posts.. You would think that they would be thrilled to place Shadow back with the owner since adoptions are so few and far in between. I would be interested in how you are going to write and present a new law. I know nothing about it but would love to learn.
Take care. Heidiand Tylers Mom. PS. I am in Ohio.

By sheltervet06 @ Monday, April 28, 2008 4:54 PM
First, let me say I am sorry that you have found yourself in this situation.

To answer the question does a shelter have the right to deny you your animal once you've signed it over, yes absolutely they have that right, because you signed them over. That's essentially what signing them over means.

I worked in a shelter for a year and a half, and though we did make exceptions for owners like you, the policy was typically if you surrender to us, you don't adopt from us. When you take in 400 animals per month and have to euthanize over 300 of them because there simply aren't homes for them, you kind of lose sympathy for someone who surrenders to you.

That's just a little bit to explain their side of it. I also sympathize with your situation, please don't get me wrong. The downside to requiring 48 or 72 hours for fickle owners who change their minds to come back is that the animal will in the meantime take up a cage that a dog or cat that actually needs to adopted could be occupying. That hardly seems fair to the homeless ones that still need adoption. Just something to think about...

By sheltervet06 @ Monday, April 28, 2008 4:57 PM
Also, I wholeheartedly agree with everything cesg said.

By quinnandsassy @ Sunday, May 04, 2008 10:53 PM
Iam so sory for you and shadow..I do cat rescue and am fortunate enough to have a seperate building on my property that I call the house of felines.I have taken in several cats for people who don't know where their life is headed and they are always welcome to come and visit and when things get better for them they are more than welcome th have their beloved pet back. My only requirements are that the cats are tested felv/fiv and up to date on shots. I am associated with a non prophit rescue and take care of amy medical problems that may occur.I'm sorry you couldn't find a rescue to help you .The love of a pet is free and helping another animal lover in a time of need should be always available.

By Luckygirl1 @ Friday, May 09, 2008 11:49 AM
I do believe that if a well-cared for, non-abused pet has an owner who changes his/her mind, that the owner should be able to get that pet back, even if a small fee is charged. That is just cruel to not give them back, unless of course the animal was visably abused or neglected. How sad.

By baileymoore @ Tuesday, June 24, 2008 8:49 AM
My first call would be to my lawyer! Or the local newspaper.

This is an outrage. As a volunteer at the local SPCA, there are so many animals in need of a loving home. Denying Shadow's return to you is appalling!

By savelives @ Saturday, November 01, 2008 7:56 AM
Sorry for this truly sad situation.

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